I thought you might enjoy from time to time seeing the progress we're making on our little tract home. I know I enjoy peeks into other owners' home refreshing adventures so I thought I'd share some photos and the story behind our little home. We'll call these blog posts "Tales of a Tract Home," and they will appear here as we make progress on different areas of our home.
Let's start at the beginning . . . .
We bought out home six years ago a few weeks before our son Joseph passed
away from cancer. We had been living with my Mom after moving back to our state after four years in Georgia, which was both difficult and
a blessing. Hard because I'm a very independent sort and wanted to be out on my
own. And a blessing because without her help both financially, emotionally, and
physically we would not have been able to spend the hours at the hospital with
our son during his cancer treatments. Desperately looking for a way to give
Joseph a permanent place to call home, we took a few hours here and there during the spring months of 2007 to
try and find a place.
It seems silly now that we wanted so much to find him a place when we were
losing him to cancer, but as a parent you try so hard to give your kids
everything they need. And I think we were clinging to the idea that if we gave
him a home, we were giving him some rest. Little did we know then, that this
home would become a healing place after his journey was over rather than a
resting place for Joey.
We found this home one Saturday afternoon. It was a tract home in a cookie
cutter neighborhood of builder-grade homes, but it stood out to me because of
the light green siding and wide front porch. When we toured the home, we
noticed it had great bones and laminate flooring in the major traffic
areas which was a big sell for us. The interior was neutral, which meant all of our belongings would easily match and we could move in quickly. The home seller gave us a few minutes alone
in the house, and Brett and I actually knelt right there in the entry way and
prayed to know if this would be a good home for our little family. We felt a
joyous peace and were happy to sign our financial lives away for the
opportunity to create a safe haven for our family.
We closed in less than a month in an effort to move in more quickly.
After we closed on the house, Joey actually saw the home twice as I carried him up the stairs to his
"would-be" bedroom so that I could let the Air Conditioning guys into
the house. I realize now that I should never have transported him back and
forth, but it's strange how you cling to normalcy in the face of such
unimaginable horror. He could have cared less, but tried so hard to be happy
for us. I wanted so much to give him is own special room, but he was just too
sick to care.
The night Joey passed away we packed up enough items from my Mom's house to
"camp" in our newly purchased home, and we spent the night privately mourning the
loss of our son. It was just one evidence of the importance of having our own
place so that we could adjust and accept our new living circumstances. We were so grateful to those who helped us move in while I spent time with my son at the hospital, which was to be some of his last weeks with us on earth.
They carefully placed our belongings in our home in such a way that we could simply slip away into the night and gather close as we said our good-byes in our heart to our beloved son. I can never thank our family and friends enough for helping us start our new circumstances in such a beautiful way. They were instrumental in giving us a much needed reprieve. Here is how they set up my home, much like I would have done had I been there to help:
During those first few weeks at our home without Joey, we tried to lose ourselves in the work of setting it up. But once we got to a "functioning" level, we simply didn't have anything left emotionally to devote to the house so it sat like this for quite a while. Joey's room, which was to be a quiet, cool place for him to rest instead became a haven where we would go to think about him and miss him. It was a sacred place to remember our beautiful boy. And we kept his room set up for him just as we had envisioned it for a very long time.
There were so many proofs that while our decision to purchase a home while our son was ill seemed crazy that it really was so right for us. We think about this constantly and know the Lord brought us to a place where we could feel safe, loved, and have some time to learn to accept that our little boy wasn't going to be with us any more. It's been a difficult journey but having this home has helped us through the grieving process.
We've continued working to create a home rather than a house for Katelyn and James who miss their brother terribly and who needed a constant in their lives after losing their brother. Beyond sharing the "before" and "after" photos, I'll try to share the reasons why we chose to surround ourselves with the things that we have as I feel that creating a home always comes from the heart.
This little tract home has many sweet tales to tell, and I hope you'll join us on our journey to make it OUR home.
